Hello there!

Thanks for stopping by my page! It means a lot to me!

My name is Sika (pronounced Sheeka). I am a 40-year-old woman living on the east coast. I have had a fulfilling life, but one thing that has eluded me has been finding a spouse and starting a family. I have had relationships with wonderful men, but none of those relationships resulted in marriage, so I have decided to create a family on my own.

I look forward to being a mother one day! I plan to raise a child in a warm environment, full of love and support from not only me but from the large circle of family and friends I've picked up along the way through jobs, school, and hobbies. They will all be a part of our village of love that the child will receive.

As I started thinking about myself, I decided to ask my loved ones how they would describe me. Here is what they said:

“My sister is a one-of-a-kind person, and I love that she is dependable and consistent.”

 – Tsatsu, my brother

“Sika is the glue that holds all relationships together.”

– Vive, my best friend

“I think what stands out about Sika is that she deeply values her relationships. Whether she just met you or has been your friend for 20 years, she has this drive to get to know people. This is one of the reasons she has the most friends of anyone I know. She is smart, curious and funny. She is incredibly empathetic and would do anything for her family and friends. You couldn’t find a better daughter, sister, friend or auntie.”

-Christina, my other best friend

How kind of them to say!

As they mentioned, I really appreciate my relationships and try to invest as much as I can into the people that love me. I value reliability and being a person that people can count on. I believe this comes from being a middle child.

Despite my large circle, I still have so much more love to give and always welcome more people in my life including children. I can’t wait to give a child the same love, dependability and consistency that my loved ones say I have afforded them.

My interests include domestic and international travel. Due to work, I have been able to travel quite a bit. Some of my favorite destinations have been Hawaii, New Orleans, Germany, France and Ghana. My other interests include live music, dancing and supporting nonprofit organizations and small businesses.

I also enjoy learning languages. My interest in languages developed as a result of having a wonderful Russian teacher in high school. In addition, my parents are from Ghana, West Africa, so I grew up hearing another language in my household. I am currently taking classes to be able to speak my parents’ language more fluently.   

As for my career, I worked in marketing for almost 15 years and thoroughly enjoyed it. However, in 2017, I made a big (and terrifying) career leap and began to work full-time in rare disease patient advocacy. I was inspired to do so by the loss of my sister and best friend, Carolyn, in 2006. She was diagnosed with a rare autoimmune disease. It was a shock to our family since she was only 22-years-old and vibrant as all get out. Sadly, only a year and a half after her diagnosis, she passed away in 2008. 

I would like the child that I raise to enjoy a wide variety of interests and experiences, like I have been able to, so that they can have an enriched upbringing. These experiences will include traveling and experiencing other cultures, learning new languages, and giving back.

I live in a diverse condominium community in the DC-Metro area. It houses over 200 families and is a great place to live. I bought my condo in 2017 after saving for several years. It’s a one-bedroom unit with a balcony on the top floor of the building.

The community has a rooftop, gym and a lovely garden-area. I work out in the gym three times a week with my trainer who lives in the building and has become a dear friend. I also volunteer every summer to water the potted plants on the roof of our building. There are many families with children that live in the building. They span all ages and attend the same local schools.

My neighborhood is diverse and has great schools, stores, parks, and restaurants. It is one of the safest neighborhoods in our city and a lovely place to raise kids. While my condo has served as the perfect home for me, once I adopt, I plan on moving into a single-family home in an equally lovely neighborhood. Growing up, we had a nice-sized yard, and I would like this child to enjoy one as well.

I was born to Ghanaian parents, who immigrated to the United States in the early 1970s. I grew up with them along with my two older brothers and my younger sister, who passed away in 2008. My father passed away in 2018. We grew up in a fairly tight-knit family that embraced two cultures: American and Ghanaian. That meant we ate both pizza and banku and spoke both English and Ewe in our home.

My extended family is very large with many aunts, uncles and cousins, some of whom are here in the U.S. and some who are abroad.

I consider my friends to be a part of my extended family, and they are just as diverse as where I live. They are all either talented or smart or both. Many of them are already incredible parents themselves and would be an important part of the child’s life. Several of my friends have adopted too, including my best friend’s husband and my good friend, Rob.

Everyone has been wonderfully supportive of my decision to adopt, for which I am grateful. Between my nieces and nephews by blood and my nieces and nephews through friendship, any child I adopt will grow up with many “cousins” in their life.

If you made it this far, thank you for taking the time to get to know me.

I want you to know that if you choose me to mother your child, I will do so with all the love, support and wisdom you would have given him or her yourself. I would ensure that they have a well-rounded life full of travel, culture, curiosity and wonder.

Please know that I would want your child to maintain contact with you so that they will know how much you love them and so that you can see who they are becoming.

I will close by saying that I don’t know you, but I know that you are an amazing and loving mother, and I admire you so much for considering this difficult decision! If we don’t meet, I wish you all the best in your final decision.